I’ve been having bad days and drawing this helped me remember things.
I hope it helps you, too.
Only abusive parents get angry if they need to pay attention to their kids
Only abusive parents get angry at their kid for being sick
Only abusive parents make their kid feel guilty for needing food, clothing and care
Only abusive parents blackmail their kid with withdrawing love and care if the kid doesn’t deliver their expectations
Only abusive parents use threats and intimidation to impose control over children’s lives
Only abusive parents make children afraid of them
Only abusive parents make the kid feel alone against the world
Only abusive parents blame the child for being born, as if it was the kid imposing on their lives, and not the opposite
Only abusive parents enjoy the look of hurt and pain on child’s face
Only abusive parent could ever tell the kid they deserved to be hurt and punished and in pain
Only abusive parent accuses the child for faking pain when they’re crying
Only abusive parent tries to convince child they have no right to emotions, wants or desires
No good parent would ever do any of this.
If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.
Can someone translate this?
Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.
You guys freaking out like this is the first time a US president openly collaborated with a fascist dictatorship in latin america
Can we please just express our impotent frustration though
nobody’s allowed to be upset about this unless they can prove they were equally upset in September 1973 when the US backed Pinochet’s coup in Chile, I don’t care if they have to build a time machine to do it
i dropped off my resume at this place at 1:15 and got called for an interview at 1:45 holy dang
Today I got interviewed, hired, and then given a dollar raise and a better store location because the interviewer “liked my attitude”
REBLOG FOR GOOD JOB GETTING KARMA COME ON GRAB A PIECE
by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore
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That’s some pretty good advice. I don’t know what’s left of my humor after ‘guess I’ll just die’ jokes but it’s worth a shot.
Personally i went from “guess I’ll die” jokes to “IF I HAVE TO BE HERE FOR 5 MORE MINUTES I PROMISE YOU I WILL BUY JUST, AN ARRAY OF CLOTHES.” and other wild hyperbolic stuff. Just replace the death part with something ridiculous and off topic. Its very entertaining
This also works with calling myself things like stupid, worthless, trash, etc. Even if you do this jokingly to yourself, your brain still believes it, and keeps up the cycle. Seriously, I found that when I stopped saying these things about myself, even jokingly, it made a massive difference.
Here’s a tip I picked up from a friend that’s helped me a lot — replace self deprecating jokes with ironically self aggrandizing jokes
Like every time I trip and fall, instead of saying “l’m just a disaster human” I say “I’m the epitome of grace and beauty”
Or like, when I draw a picture I’m not 100% happy with, instead of saying “my art is trash” I say something like “you know I think it’s time we replaced the Mona Lisa”
When you do that you get to make a joke, but you’re ALSO getting practice building yourself up, y’know?
And eventually it becomes a reflex and you get so used to it that you can say nice stuff about yourself even when you AREN’T joking